What is reframing?

Basis of reframing is to separate Intention from Behaviour. Because all meaning is context dependent, changing the frame of a situation can change the meaning. A reframe is useful in giving someone new insight and understanding of a presenting problem and in the process make the problem become a non-issue.

A context reframe is where changing the context of a scenario changes the meaning. Context reframes work well in presenting problems where the statement is given as a Comparative Deletion, e.g. I’m too… She’s too…

A meaning reframe is where the presenting problem would have a different meaning by challenging the belief or assumption. The statement is usually expressed as a Complex Equivalent e.g. my mother never cooks my dinner, she doesn’t love me. Response: “Wow, I though my mother didn’t love me because she never lets me cook for myself”

Agreement frame is where you pace and lead an objection by using the word “and” for example you want to dissolve the relationship and it would be useful to look at alternative first

A Conditional Close is a closing statement that agrees with the person on a condition that they can satisfy, example, “So, I really want to buy the bike, and I know it’s important for you to sell it today, so if you include a spare water canister, then we can close the deal now and both be happy”